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Hello May, My Dear Friend

I think I should start off by saying thank you to the five of you who still check in faithfully. Okay, there’s more than five, but seriously, I’m amazed that you still check things out when I go 6 weeks between posts.

Time has been whipping by here and I keep feeling like I want to sit down and write and get all the thoughts out of my head, but then something else comes along and needs my attention. Know that I’ve written you books in my mind over the past weeks :)

We have a  research team here right now. Same group as the one in August, but a different project this time. Clean Water for Haiti isn’t part of the study this go round, but they love us so much that they asked if we could host them and they could rent a driver and vehicle for 10 days. They’re such a great group to have here that we couldn’t resist :) I’m fascinated by the research they’re doing and would love to share more but I don’t know what we’re allowed to talk about, etc. I do know that it could have a big impact on water treatment and medical care in Haiti. They’ve basically turned the round house into a lab, which just amazes me. I haven’t had the chance to go down and see everything they’re doing yet, but have plans for that sometime this week. I definitely want to take my camera and get some work shots of them too. Camera…where art thou??? (Yonese was cleaning the other day and put my camera bag on my office chair while she swept and mopped under the desk where it usually sits. Yeah, it had  a layer of dust on it…)

We’re still having vehicle issues, but starting to make some progress, I think… Lol! It’s like a three ring circus around here when it comes to what’s working and what’s not. If you know of anyone with $50,000 that they want to give away to purchase a new vehicle for us that would be awesome.

My kids have literally grown an inch in the past month. It’s crazy. I ordered a bunch of their uniform stuff for next school year and got it yesterday. Alex looks amazing and my heart broke a little because he’s going to be starting Kindergarten in August and he has to wear a tie!!! I promise to share pictures soon, because  he has to wear a tie!!! Oh my heart. I dressed him all up in his full garb and he did a fashion show for everyone. After gushing over him I groaned because I’m pretty sure the size 13 shoes I ordered him aren’t going to fit come August. Oh yeah, he’s going to be 4 in July, and is sporting a size 6 dress shirt. It’s a bit big, but I’m guessing by the end of the school year it’ll be just barely fitting. He’s a giant!

I’ve been swimming laps three times per week at one of the local hotels. Got a pass with some friends back in February and apparently swimming is my sport. I’ve always enjoyed being in the water, but never swam for exercise. When I first started I would do 10 laps just to get my blood flowing, but was pretty lazy and would move on to other things after I did my time. One day I was there and got into the flow and my body just wanted to do more. Now I’m pushing out 30 laps each time and have a goal of getting up to 40 by mid-June. My friend Maggie swims and exercises with me, which is so nice because it’s a social thing too. I’ve seen how much better life is with getting regular exercise and have been just as surprised as anyone else that swimming is something I love to do. Didn’t see that one coming!

I think regular exercise naturally brings about change in the way we eat because our bodies start wanting and needing different things. I’ve been working at cutting back sugar and starches/refined carbs. Things like bread and pasta, which are my comfort foods. This week with the group in I’ve been cooking some of those things again and yesterday hit my wall of being maxed out. I just felt bloated and gross. Today I was staying away from that stuff and felt a huge difference. It’s just not worth feeling yucky anymore.

We’re now officially in the one month window for summer vacation, and I’m not going to lie or mince words – we’re excited!!! Typically we have a lot of speaking and fundraising things to be doing while home, but this year we have nothing on the calendar except fun, fun, fun. We get to spend a couple nights in Miami to take care of ordering the new solar system for the new house (!!!) and the kids are so pumped. “We get to stay in a hotel! With a pool!” We have stuff to do that will take up most of a day, but I’m looking forward to doing something special with them at the same time. They’re at such a fun age right now, and Chris and I are SO looking forward to the stuff we’re going to be doing this summer. I get to take a train ride with the two of them while Chris puts our van back together, we get to spend a couple weeks with each set of parents, and a couple weeks visiting friends and taking the kids camping to one of our favourite parts of British Columbia. The Rolling family is looking forward with much expectation!

Aaaannnnddd, I know it’s been a while since I updated on the house progress. I desperately need to do a post because things look SO different!!! Our internet isn’t working well or I’d post pictures.

They’re currently doing the form work for the ceiling pour on the first floor. It’s a lot of work to do the form work itself, then they have to go and add in all the tied rebar. The whole process takes several weeks. We were aiming to have the roof on the second floor by the time we left next month, but we think we’ll be a couple weeks off, which is just fine. I promise an update soon so you can see what’s going on. It’s exciting! In the words of our kids the last time we went out as a family, “It looks like a house!!!” :) I’m most excited to see the room sizes now that there’s some form of covering on them because I was holding my breath about all the design decisions I’d made. Fun, fun!

So that’s life here right now. I know I’ve forgotten a ton, but it’s the most my brain can do at the moment. I’ll try to get back to writing more soon.

~Leslie

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May 11, 2015 2 Comments
Honey We’re Home: Construction Week 18

Honey We’re Home: Construction Week 18

Can you believe we’re already at week 18 of full on construction?? We’ve been at it for over 4 months! It seems crazy to me. Sometimes I feel like time goes really slowly here, in the sense that it can take a really long time for things to come together or get worked out, like our car repairs. We have a  Santa Fe that’s been in the shop since last June. When I stopped and realized that we were coming up on the one year mark it made me want to cry. Other things just slip by and I find myself wondering how we got to where we are, kind of like those times when you’re driving and you realize that you somehow missed the last five minutes of the journey because you were lost in your thoughts.

When I last updated about the construction we had just done the foundation pour on the house. So much has happened since then!

Yesterday I went out to meet with Evens so we could confirm placement on electrical outlets and switches. Yep, outlets and switches! Now, you have to remember that the process for building in concrete is much different than wood. With wood you do all the framing first, get things to close up stage, then you have your contractors go in and place wiring and plumbing. With concrete you have to place all of that as you go because it all gets cemented in the walls and floors. When we built our current house we waited on some of that stuff and did it after, which was a lot of work. It meant jackhammering lines in the wall and running the conduit that way. So much work. This time we’re doing it the right way and doing it as we go.

When I arrived I was giddy because so much was happening. Let’s start with the depot (shop):

A few weeks ago we poured the roof on the building. Working up to a pour is a time consuming process. It took about two weeks to do all the wood form work on the roof. As they’re placing the wood supports they’re reinforcing them with what we call “potos”. Creole is funny because one word will have many meanings. In English we have many words to mean the same thing. A “photo” can be any kind of support post. On a bridge, a column supporting a roof, or in the case of prepping the roof for pouring, a metal jack stand.

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I think in total we rented about 120 of them for the depot building. After all the cross supports and jack stands are in place plywood is laid down. But, we’re still not ready to pour the roof. Before we can pour we have to tie rebar in a grid pattern at set distances to carry the main structural support of the concrete. Rebar is what holds concrete buildings together if there’s any flex, like an earthquake. As the rebar was getting tied Evens was also running any electrical and what not. Things like boxes for light fixtures. It all has to be in place before the pour because you can’t place that stuff in a solid slab after the pour.

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Pour day was once again a great day. Pouring the foundation was a different process because we were pouring concrete down into the trenches, so the guys could literally drive a wheelbarrow over and dump it, then the bosses came along and smoothed things out where needed. When you pour a roof you’re going up, and in Haiti we do that with a ladder and a bunch of buckets, in a bucket brigade.

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If you want to see fierce work, watch Haitian men pour a cement roof. It’s amazing. It’s hard and exhausting work. It’s like watching a well oiled machine.

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When I arrived at the site they were well under way. We had estimated that they were going to have to work a long day just based on the square footage that needed to be poured. They completely blew us away. By noon the roof was almost done. When I came back out an hour before the end of the work day they were done the roof and had moved onto laying block on the house. Let me just be clear here – these guys had heaved TONS, very literally, of cement up a story onto a roof, and then they went and did other work to round the day out.

The thing that just keeps amazing us is everyone’s attitudes. This is really the hardest and probably least enjoyable type of work when you’re doing a construction project, but the guys were in great spirits. In fact, they actually had a bit of a competition going on between the two teams.

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After the roof pour we waited a day or two, then took the form work off. A few days before I left on my trip I did a trip to Port au Prince with Chewie so we could buy a ton of stuff. A TON of stuff. Evens was going to need bathroom fixtures for the staff bathrooms, but we decided that since we were getting all the fixtures for the house from the same places we would go and buy all of it at the same time. Toilets, and sinks, and a bathtub, oh my! The advantage of doing this is that as Evens has been getting the plumbing laid in the house he’s got the actual fixtures that he’ll be working with, rather than laying stuff and hoping it fits later. So much better than what we did last time. The other advantage for me personally, was having to make final decisions on things early on. While I could have spent several visits to multiple stores deciding exactly which toilet or faucets I wanted, it was actually really freeing to just decide, pay for it, and put it in the truck. Now I don’t need to let that take up space in my brain. We got conduit, tile, grout, electrical wire… so many things that my head was spinning and we were completely exhausted by the time we got home.

For the record, do you know how expensive wire is??? Crazy expensive! We have to a have a heavy gauge, multi-line wire for our battery and inverter system. It’s literally an inch thick. We shudder every time we have to buy it, because we’ve had to buy it in big pieces, like 170 feet. And it’s always in the hundreds of dollars. Like lots of hundreds of dollars range. Ouch!

In the past two weeks the guys have been working on certain things on the depot to get it a bit more finished and useable, then we’ll stop work on that and just be working on the house until after we move. The priorities are to get the doors on to be able to lock stuff up inside, get the staff bathrooms partly functional to the point where the guys can bucket flush the toilet and take bucket showers. The full on water system will be hooked up when we move into the house because it’s all inter-connected.

When I went out yesterday I found bathrooms with mostly tiled walls. We got a sweet standing tile saw that makes me want to tile all the things. One of our bosses does tile, so rather than having to hire out he’s going to be doing ALL the tile, which is going to be a lot. It was worth it to invest in a good saw to do the job. He had a big grin when I asked him if he likes the saw. He’s used to working with a slider cutter and then having to break the tile. He’s doing a beautiful job.

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The depot has also been mostly painted. We wanted to get everything painted to protect the block. The first coat took 25 gallons of paint, and it’s not done yet. I need to get more today when I go to town. It’s just soaking it up, but it’s good because it means that the walls will be really well protected.

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We have two of the three rooms in lock up stage and are using them to store things like cement and tools. The main room door isn’t square so we need to do some work on it to get it to fit. Hopefully that’ll happen early next week.

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Now, the house!

The last time I posted about it we were starting to lay block after the foundation was poured…

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Since then we’ve filled the spaces between the block and the trenches, and tamped it down to get ready to pour the floor…

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Then we poured the floor last week while I was away. This is what it looked like on Saturday morning when Chris and I went out:

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Aside from the rebar sticking up there’s also a lot of conduit. Those are electrical lines and some plumbing.

And this is what things looked like yesterday when I went out:

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IMG_3719That’s the kitchen! It’s 20 feet long! It was so fun to set down a tape measure and get a feel for where the cabinets will reach, etc.

IMG_3721This is looking from the centre of the kitchen to the living room. Those support posts will all be formed and poured to match the wall. It’s basically a big wide door way. On the right where you see the line of blocks at floor level is where the stairwell will be going to the second floor. The stairs will go up in the corner to a small landing, then up the main staircase.

IMG_3718Thony (l) and Evens (r) are in the office! The storage room/pantry for the main floor is that section in the lower part of the picture. The picture doesn’t really give a good feel for how big the office is.

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Evens adjusting the height of the counter top electrical socket boxes.

Up until yesterday I had been holding my breath because it was still really hard to get a feel for the rooms, especially when I was still looking at trenches. I kept worrying that all my hours of pacing and measuring things out as I worked on plans would have left things “off”. That we would have gotten to the point of putting up walls and realized that a certain room was too small by just a couple feet, but that it was too late to change anything. Through the whole process I’ve kept telling Chris that I wanted to be really intentional about planning so we didn’t have any regrets or wish that we’d done something differently. Walking through the house over the weekend and yesterday was so fun because I was totally happy with everything! So excited to see it keep coming together.

 

 

 

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April 9, 2015 2 Comments
Vacating Life

Vacating Life

vacation [vey-key-shuh n, vuh-]
1. a period of suspension of work, study, or other activity, usually used for rest, recreation, or travel; recess or holiday: Schoolchildren are on vacation now.
2. a part of the year, regularly set aside, when normal activities of law courts, legislatures, etc., are suspended.
3. freedom or release from duty, business, or activity.
4. an act or instance of vacating.

I like number 4 – “an act or instance of vacating”. I once heard the word vacation defined as vacating one’s life. Not sure where that came from, but when I thought of what it really meant to vacation, it fit really well. I also realized just how hard it is to truly vacate life. To completely walk away from all the daily responsibilities and daily grind, especially now that the internet and email and social media are so accessible, everywhere.

Typically when we go on our annual holiday in the summer, there is some vacationing, but a lot of it is about visiting and there’s even a certain amount of work thrown in there because of the opportunities to do face to face meetings with people. There are restful times, but we don’t get to fully step away from life. We still have to answer emails, we still have to parent, we still have to do a lot of day to day stuff, we just do it in a different place. In fact, often it feels kind of stressful because we’re staying with friends and family and aren’t able to maintain our regular routines, have a harder time doing regular discipline, and our kids might get a bit out of hand from being in so many different environments. We love our holiday time because it’s a break from Haiti, but it also feels good to come home and sleep in our own beds and get back into our regular routines.

I got back on Friday from my week in the Dominican Republic with two friends. I realized halfway through the week that it was the first time in a long time where I’d truly “vacated” life. I talked to Chris and the kids a couple times while I was away, and checked email each morning, but aside from that I had none of my regular responsibilities. There were no meals for me to cook. No school drives to do. No dishes to wash. No bedtime stories to read. No disciplining to do.

Instead, I got to sleep in a bed by myself with the only thing waking me up being my bladder. I slept hard and good and actually woke up feeling refreshed after the coffee kicked in each morning. I only ate meals prepared for me by others. Meals made up of all my favourite things. I didn’t have to serve anyone else’s plate or cut their food. I drank adult drinks, multiple times per day. I finished a cup of coffee before it got cold. Lots of times. I sauntered and shopped and learned history and talked about life stuff with two sweet friends. We laughed. We had siesta each day that involved a lot of napping and a lot of reading. I read 3 books while I was gone. I wore make-up and cute clothes. I bought a fedora and wore it regularly.

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I had the time and space to think about things and muddle them over in my head and heart. I thought a lot about Haiti and the vast contrast between it and the DR even thought they exist on the same land mass. One has 6 lane highways and overpasses and what not, and the other is struggling to make sense of road rules. In one place street vendors will ask if you want to buy their wares, then graciously let you go on your way, while the other results in feelings of anger from being harassed so badly. One place tries so hard to be further ahead than it is, and the other just is. It’s very literally like comparing apples to oranges.

In the midst of all this thinking and reasoning and heart stuff one of my friends asked, “Who wants to take bets on how long it’ll be after we get back before I’m ready to punch someone in the face?” I said 48 hours. She said that might be very generous. We got to the border.

That might sound harsh, but Haiti is hard. As a foreigner here there is never a time when you’re able to just turn “off” completely. Every relationship is hard. Every activity is hard. Every exchange with another person has the potential to be really hard. Your guard is always up, you’re always in defence mode. It’s not a choice, it just is. Everything is work here. And not getting a break from that can and does lead to heavy feelings. Feelings of frustration, anger and a lot of other things. It’s hard to do that thing that we all feel is our number one calling in being here, that loving thing, when you’re feeling tapped out.

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I realized this week that’s why vacating our lives for a short time is so needed. True vacating, a chance to step away from life as we know it, is what can lead to restfulness and rejuvenation. Halfway might only get you, well, halfway. A year or so ago we decided that we would spend most Christmases in Haiti, eliminating one of our annual holidays. Not that we don’t want to be with friends and family during that time, but because of the travel and all the things necessary to get ourselves there and all that the holidays hold. It was just too much of certain things. If we could just blink and be there, we would, but it doesn’t work that way.

Making that decision left us in a place of having to make some other changes. Last year, because of some expiring Advantage points I was able to fly to Peru for free and spend a week with one of my best friends from college. It was a great time away. We did a ton and had a lot of fun, so it wasn’t the most restful trip, but a good way to get away. In October last fall Chris took 10 days and did a motorcycle trip with his brother in California. He needed that time away. He needed to vacate life for a bit. He came back rested and ready to go again. We had a serious talk about the value of us each getting time away for about a week each year. Time away from each other (we sit two feet apart all day long most days), from the kids, and from all our day to day responsibilities. From Haiti, too. We know that one of the best ways to stay healthy in every way over the long term here is to take regular breaks. Or, we might end up reacting rather than being able to step back when the pressure builds.

This decision, to give each other the gift of space, has been life giving. It’s a way of caring for each other. It’s a way of giving something that is most needed. We love each other enough to know that sometimes the best thing we can do is take a break from each other. To remember all the reasons why we’ve chosen to do life together. To remember all the reasons we wanted to have kids. To have time to actually miss each other. We don’t get to do that very often. It’s easy to fall into that place of taking each other for granted, of taking things out on each other because we’re so close, all the time. We love each other so much that we want to give each other the gift of no responsibilities for a week once a year. Time to just be and rest and laugh and have fun and not worry about all the things.

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Vacation.

It’s meant to be a restorative time, not more stress. I’m so thankful that I got that rest this past week. I feel ready to go again. To keep pushing through until summer. I came home wanting to snuggle my kids more, and able to handle the dozod (in Creole it literally means “to make chaos”) that is our life on any given day. Some days it’s work. Some days it’s Alex destroying everything in his wake. I came home feeling like I had what it takes to love my husband better. I came home feeling more connected to friends, and remembering who I am – that part of me that sometimes gets lost in the rest of life.

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I’m Leslie. I started my blog back in 2005 when I was fresh off the plane in Haiti. I lived in Haiti for over 17 years as a missionary, wife, and eventually mom. My husband and I ran Clean Water for Haiti together, day in and day out. We carved out a life we loved doing something important to us. Sadly, in the fall of 2022 we had to make the difficult decision to leave Haiti because of the insecurity. We’re now settling into life in the US. I’m thankful that I get to continue my work with CWH as the Executive Director for Canada and the US.

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